“Associate yourself only with those people you can be proud of- whether they work for you or you work for them.”

Often times we have issue with our boss and we aren’t quite sure how to approach them in a way that’s healthy for everyone involved.

Approach issues with your boss just like you would approach any other problem you encounter in business. First, clearly identify the problem. Most people jump to a solution before they understand precisely what the problem is. As a result, they solve the wrong problem, while allowing the real problem to pick up steam.

How do you know if you’re solving the right problem?

The key is to write down 3 things:

  1. The problem as you perceive it.
  2. The impact it has on you or others.
  3. What you want to accomplish- your desired end state

Once you’ve gone through those 3 steps, you have everything you need to begin looking for solutions to the problem. Next, write down:

  • Why you think the problem exists.
  • Potential solutions.

You’d be surprised how often new options surface when you know exactly what the problem is, it’s impact, and what you’d like to accomplish. And if you’re going to talk to someone, you definitely want to offer some potential solutions. Just walking in and throwing out a problem without any plan or suggestions won’t get you very far.

Ex: If your perceived issue is that your boss doesn’t make their expectations clear, then the impact on you is that you’re left to set your own priorities, and on many occasions, your priorities will not be in sync with theirs. This creates conflict between you.

The problem came about because they are shorthanded, and there’s so much work to be done, that everyone is focused on the ‘urgent’ rather than the important.

The proposed solution is that you meet weekly for just 10 minutes to clarify priorities and expectations.

Now, when you talk to your boss, you’ll be able to clearly identify the problem as you perceive it, the problem’s impact on you, and your work, how you would like your relationship to work, and some alternative solutions.

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Success Often Follows Your Most Devastating Failure

Your choices in any given situation are either to quit, or pick yourself up and move forward. The best choice is to pick yourself up, and make yourself a promise: From that point on, you will learn from your failures, and will not make the same mistake twice.

So, this success principle is: From Now On…

It’s ok to fail- everyone fails at some point. But it’s not ok to keep failing.

One of the main reasons people continue to fail is that they are reluctant to face the truth. They keep making things up to maintain the alignment of their hopes with their dreams.

EX:  If a football coach has an entire season of losses, might try to justify his record by talking about his tough schedule, some key injuries, and not inheriting much talent.

But it doesn’t take long to realize that those little white lies you’re telling yourself aren’t helping. In fact, being in denial only delays success. Quit rationalizing and search for the truth.

Don’t allow yourself to get caught up in the excuse trap. Excuses are abundant… and predictable. You will always be able to find one; you’ll always find others who will agree with your excuse; and you can rest assured that the excuses will never solve any problem.

The 2 common attributes among successful people are:

  1. They don’t make excuses to justify why things are the way they are.
  2. They don’t complain about the way things should be. They accept reality and take charge to make positive things happen.

No one enjoys failing, but failure provides the greatest learning experiences because failure teaches us humility, perseverance, and courage. Bust most of all, it teaches you to do whatever is necessary to avoid being in the same situation again.

The From Now On Commitment

Make a commitment that ‘From Now On’, for every mistake, you will not make the same mistake again.

Most people are reluctant to learn from the past and move forward. Instead, they’re more interested in justifying why the situation is the way it is, rather than making the situation better.

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It’s no secret that success rarely happens on the first try. It usually happens after trial and error, learning from those mistakes, prolonged effort, and moving forward.

When we say, ‘From Now On’, we really mean, ‘change now!’.

Responding to change is like going down the road less traveled. It’s not Easy Street, but it gets you where you need to be. Enjoy the process of change. Don’t enjoy change for change’s sake, but enjoy the improvement that comes after a change has been made.

Change so you realize your potential. Growth and success are optional, and if we choose that option, we have to change.

John F. Kennedy once said, “The time to repair the roof is when the sun is shining.” You don’t wait until the crisis hits to move into action on something that needs to be fixed.

The best marketing organizations in the world focus on delivering not only what customers tell them they want, but also what customers don’t know they want.

Change allows us to move forward and look to the future with confidence.

The two most important lessons about change are:

  1. When change happens, go with it. Don’t sit around waiting and hoping that things will change back to the way they used to be.
  2. When things are going well, keep changing. You can only improve if you are making positive changes.

From Now On Key Points to Remember

  • It’s OK to fail- everyone fails at some point- but it’s not OK to keep failing.
  • Denial only delays success.
  • Success rarely shows up quickly. It appears after trial, error, and prolonged effort.
  • Growth and success are optional, and if we choose that option, we have to change.
  • Successful people never makes excuses to justify why things are the way they are, and they don’t complain about the way things should be.
  • Change should be constant and welcomed, even when things are going well.
  • Problem solving process that can be used for any issue- write down:
  • The problem as you perceive it.
  • The impact it has on you and others.
  • What you want to accomplish- your desired end state.
  • Why you think the problem exists.
  • Potential solutions.

Do Something Different

  1. Learn from my mistakes and failures, and never make the same mistake twice.
  • Accept responsibility and take charge to make positive things happen.
  • Welcome change.

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